(A) Responsibility In Relationships I

This should have been my first entry, but since the issue of responsibility is timeless this may be just as good a time as any to bring it up and clear some air about relationships in general, and your relationships and my writing in particular. So, since you are reading this blog I’ll make it about you. Let’s consider that the quality of your relationship has NOTHING to do with your partner and EVERYTHING to do with YOU. In other words you are the one who is 100% responsible and has the say-so how it goes for you. This, of course is not the truth, but I invite you to start acting as if it is and notice what magick may occur.

Now, how resistant are you to this notion? Take a little time and think about it. Does it empower you or does it DISempower you?

Before you try to answer this question a few words about responsibility. When I say 100% responsible we need to be on the same page, i.e. we need to agree what is meant by responsibility. In this context what I mean by responsibility is NOT burden, fault, blame, credit, shame or guilt. Responsibility simply starts with saying you are cause in the matter and that you are able to choose a response. You may not be able to choose what happens, but you are always able to choose how you will respond to it as opposed to simply automatically react to an event or a situation. In taking such responsibility there is no evaluation of good or bad, right or wrong. There is only the stand that you take and the reality of what is.

Being responsible starts with the willingness to deal with a situation from the point of view that you are the generator of who you are, what you do  (how you choose to respond) and what you have. Again, that is not the truth. It is just a place to stand.

Now, in this context does being responsible make you more or less in control of your life? Is being responsible an empowering way to be?

Take every chance to be responsible.

 

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